I have a really good friend, probably my best friend .. had a drinking/drug problem. Well he has been clean I think about 15 years now. He was divorced 3 years ago ... main reason? His addiction. His XW never forgave him, all those hurts built up little resentments, ones they never worked through together, he figured "Ok I am clean and sober, lets move on and be happy" .... not so easy. Those pains and hurts she has are very real .... along with the fact she feels you now need to work, pull your weight .. keep up your end of the bargain ... just seeds for you here, things you will have to be sensitive to as I will bet ... these things will come up.
So at this point ... ACTIONS .... not words. AnotherStander has given you sound advice up there ^^^^ .... you have a good deal of work to do, if you read around you will find that those who focus more on themselves rather than what their WAS is doing seem to fair far better .... and if you can do this and DB at the same time ... all the better.
