When is kindness enough?

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In another thread I saw mentioned this TED talk “Rethinking infidelity” by Esther Perel.
I have just watched it and am about to cry.
Her final words are memorable:
"Today in the west most of us are going to have two or three relationships or marriages and some of us are going to do it with the same person.
Your first marriage is over. Would you like to create a second one together?"
My W and I, back in June, would talk endlessly about this. One thing we knew for sure: we hated our old marriage and would never go back to it ever again. We had our eyes wide open and knew exactly what we didn't want. And we decided we wanted a second one.
My W now started replaying the same cassette (boy, I am old)
during our last conversation ten days ago: "I am exhausted, to many years of suffering have elapsed. I don't think what I feel for your will ever come back. I want a new cycle to begin."
Too bad my wife allowed her fog to redefine our marriage in a negative way, that the legacy of our marital crisis will not be the reconstruction of a stronger and more solid one but the destruction of a family.
I will now move on.
And I can say, Zephyr, that I have made the biggest change in me that I could do: I started expressing and sharing my feelings.