Thanks Jedi, yes that is where I am, but constantly "reminding" myself because the emotions keep creeping back in. But I am doing well.
I was going to attend an al-anon meeting tonight at the suggestion of my IC, but I decided not to. I am not staying with him if he continues binge drinking and raging at me while drunk, and I am sick of thinking about our problems. I found a photography class to take tonight at that same time, something that is fun for me!
I am also a major avoider, so maybe this is part of my pattern of avoidance, but I just don't want to go down the alcoholic route- he isn't one yet, he is just at the beginning stages of a drinking problem, so instead of learning to cope with this I have decided to get out if it continues. And he knows it. So again, his choice. I will gladly tackle any issues we already have, if he chooses to start some new addictions he will be alone. We can move forward, we can stay the same for awhile, but I am not going backwards with him.
