HurtHus(band) - your sitch sounds very much like mine. I'm sure I cannot help - Cadet and others can though. Just wanted to express sincere sympathy. And pulling back, *not* fixing her/fixing things really can help.
Yes - focus on what you need to fix of yourself & just being there for your kiddos.
You can get started reading right away - there are a few chapters here on the website and Amazon.com has a "look inside" function where you can actually glean a lot. There's your homework for now!


Me: 42, H: 38
Married: 12 years (second M for me)
14D, 9D
2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC

At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?