HurtHus(band) - your sitch sounds very much like mine. I'm sure I cannot help - Cadet and others can though. Just wanted to express sincere sympathy. And pulling back, *not* fixing her/fixing things really can help. Yes - focus on what you need to fix of yourself & just being there for your kiddos. You can get started reading right away - there are a few chapters here on the website and Amazon.com has a "look inside" function where you can actually glean a lot. There's your homework for now!
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?