Welcome back OLW My story is not too different from yours, my ex BD'd me a little over 3 years ago and went "all in" with her OM. That lasted about 2 years (I'm not really sure exactly how long because I quit asking about it) before it finally fizzled. She has just recently started dating again. I really can't tell if she's emerged from the fog, our relationship can best be described as the "friendly neighbor" sort. I'm not remarried but I am in a serious dating relationship. It's all changed me so much, not necessarily better but just different. Not so serious about life, enjoying day-to-day stuff more. BD just about killed me. Well, really it did kill the old me and a different me emerged. I think that's how we survive and eventually thrive, we cast off the old "us" and create something new.
My story is not too different from yours, my ex BD'd me a little over 3 years ago and went "all in" with her OM. That lasted about 2 years (I'm not really sure exactly how long because I quit asking about it) before it finally fizzled. She has just recently started dating again. I really can't tell if she's emerged from the fog, our relationship can best be described as the "friendly neighbor" sort. I'm not remarried but I am in a serious dating relationship. It's all changed me so much, not necessarily better but just different. Not so serious about life, enjoying day-to-day stuff more. BD just about killed me. Well, really it did kill the old me and a different me emerged. I think that's how we survive and eventually thrive, we cast off the old "us" and create something new. 