have i been making mistakes too long

[tkdmme]

I have read all the threads the cadet sent but have not read the divorce remedy. Also, her mother doesn't want her to leave. She has been pressuring her to work it out with me. This is a very close family and we all live within a few miles of each other so everyone is upset over this. As far as spending time together, we haven't in the past several weeks. Her family invites us both over for dinner frequently and we all attend the same church. I can't figure out how to detatch within this situation. My kids want me to go to these dinners and to church with them.
I can't financial move out. Any ideas?