Do you see this for what it is .. I think you are detached enough to actually see it from above. Your W misses you and your talks ... she was even brave enough to tell you this verbally, no mind reading from you here. However .... its cake eating right? She gets what she misses from you, in a way has her needs that you fill satisfied while not having to give up anything to fill your needs. She temp checks you constantly to make sure you are still right where she left you.
I would think Starbucks is good along with the agenda you have somewhere mysterious to be soon after. Leave her wanting more of that sweet taste only Diff can leave right? As for the weekend and dinner and all that ... be open, dwon right neighborly but yeah .. cut that dinner quick and short and have somewhere else to be. Again .... leave her wanting more of YOU.
That split personality you mentioned ... man .. brought back a wave of memories as I recall that all to well .... looking back was a total cake eat fest of my W, I know the board does not dig feeding the cake ... but I did it, sometimes on purpose ... in a detached way. I know I am a guy and all ... but in a way I showed her a little leg, fed some cake then pulled the eject handle.
Diff ... I think you are doing well ... I really do. Do what works ... more importantly do what works for YOU. Dinner here .. coffee there is not a bad thing provided its on YOUR terms and works for YOU ... you manipulate this, make the encounters into what you want, fun happy light ... heck I even did them non connected at times and she would come closer ... its that entire Push-Pull dance that was so prevalent in my sitch .. and still is. Master those dance moves ...just make sure you lead.
