Thanks V and Bets - the work situation doesn't seem to be as dire as I thought it might be. There will still be a lot of change coming and it may end up much better for me, or it may end badly. A new director is being hired with a mandate to "redesign" our program (and others)- but that should be at least a month out and no decisions will be made immediately so I have time to look around. Even if they automate more of the work that I do - I've steered them to be a top performer in the state in that program for the past 3 years so I am reasonably confident about future prospects.
Began life with STBX living at his new place this morning with our first D7 transfer since the move. He actually got out of bed after working past midnight to pick her up at 7 so that I could get to work on time- hasn't done anything like that in a year. And he's taking her to pick up her school bus pass - since I can't get to the office during their regular working hours. I didn't get any of that kind of help last year - so it does appear there will be some tangible benefits to his living closer. His emails have also been ever so slightly more conversational.
I guess now I will just have to sit back and observe what else is afoot. I don't know that I really trust my gut anymore - but it is telling me he's probably still somewhat entangled with the OW. Regardless - he seems to be moving out of the heavy affair phase, and at a minimum there is some geographical distance between them, so it will be interesting to see what kind of human being he becomes in the months to come....
