Lost, alone, and in pain

[HurtHus]

Thanks, I'll set one up.

It is so confusing because she has stated she is all in and wants to move forward to reconcile. She has said this relationship and what we have together is worth fixing us. She has said we need to fix us for the kids. She has said we are worth the work. She just never puts the effort into it.

I have retained an ATTY and have some final information to provide before the petition is completed. She is aware that I am prepared to file after finding out about her EA.

When I asked what changes she has made and will make to fix things she said she is no longer talking to or seeing the OM, as if that should be enough to make me forget everything and move on.

One positive is that she threw out the sheets that were on our bed when she brought the OM into our home.

We live in the same home and have two kids so total detachment is hard. I was working on that before, but once we started talking to the coach together it seemed to change the dynamic. I guess that was my mistake.