1. Do nothing and forfeit my opportunity to protect my self
NO!
Originally Posted By: Glove
2. Petition for dismissal based on the idea I don't think it's irreconcilable
Get a lawyer - YES
Originally Posted By: Glove
3. Go full tilt, get a lawyer and start making my own financial demands
Do whatever you must do to protect yourself and your children. I would try not to do her work for her, however you are more likely to get a better settlement the faster this happens/