Wife moved out and filed for divorce

[Sotto]

"How does one show compassion and loving to their spouse thru these difficult and advesorial times?"

Hi Bobby, it's a tough one for sure. I think in legal terms, you need to take due steps to protect your own interests and achieve a fair settlement. Many people advocate working mainly through L's. For me, H and I have exchanged some emails about various things. All quite constructive. But if he suggests something I think is unfair, I tend to withdraw, and leave the legal process to move forward.

In terms of 'compassion and loving' - I aim for a non-critical, co-operative approach. I aim to make minimal demands of H. I listen when he tells me something. I don't probe into what he is doing or ask him much about his life. If we converse, I stick to 'safe' areas, like SS or work etc. I keep contact to a minimum. I throw in a dash of humour now and again, and mention odd things I have been doing & how busy I am.

I try and keep my compassion and loving internally - rather than 'showing' it as such. I try and mentally wish him well on his path and wish him happiness however things turn out. I guess I 'show' my compassion by not being negative, critical or judgemental towards him.

Sounds like you are doing well in dificult circumstances :-)