4, I get the distinct impression that you believe if you do all the right things in the next 10 months, then H will come to his senses. Truth is, you may become a woman only a fool would leave but he's just a fool. Then what will you do? The next 10 months are better spent figuring out how you can be an independent woman. If he pulls himself together that will be a bonus, but you will no longer need him.
What happens if you tell him you are not available to watch his Ds and that he and the girls moms need to work it out? At least some of the time?
