I will also apologize to add to the hijack....but here goes.
For me, I feel like the journey we are all on is like we're swimming down a river. If we get to the end of the river, then great, we made it! But it FEELS like we are stuck in some whirlpool of our own situations. I believe we feel too connected to our own issues to really see the zoomed out view. So we ask the people that came before: how far down the river AM I now? All we feel is the spinning around, so it's hard to tell if there has been any forward motion or anything.
Now that's kind of my take on the personal journey we're on. As for how it goes with the spouse...? Who the hell knows. I've stopped paying attention to the mile markers on that road.
