LBS trying to get it right

[jedi]

Ghost,

Sorry this has somewhat hijacked your thread, but I wanted to weigh in on this discussion as well.

In one of the many books I've read since BD, I came to realize that it's my fear of the unknown and a (weak) attempt at thinking I can control the future that made me want a timeline. Not just with my sitch, but in most of my life.

So, if I know I can get to "A" by doing "B" for 8 months, great, I'm all in. But if I dont know how long I need to do "B" to get to "A", well then I'm scared. Afraid to waste my time, afraid to try something and perhaps fail. I wanted that guarantee of success in my head before taking any risks or making any changes that would result in lots of work for me.

I'm not saying all LBS are like this, but I was. I still am, but I'm working on it and it's getting better. In fact, it was a post Zeus left me asking how I would feel or work on myself differently if he told me right then my W was never coming back that helped me start to look at things in a different light. Us LSB really cannot keep looking over our shoulders wondering when WAS is coming back and half-assing the changes we need to be focused on.

I firmly believe that the number one emotion all LBS feel at BD is fear. And for me, until I learned to let that fear go (still working on it, but getting closer!) I was never going to start moving forward, making changes for me and only me.

So Ghost, as an answer to your question I'll say this: when you figure out how to let go of your fear, then your journey really begins.