Thanks Joe46. I'm 35 and no financial ties to the relationship
Cristy -
By telling the other man's wife I hope to remove him as an obstacle. I know the fundamental problems are with me and her, but he's making it much harder to engage her.
He not only meeting the needs I should have but I can see from his emails he's an operator and is doing all he can to keep her away from me.
If his wife tells him it's me who told, I know I'm screwed. But if I can get her to A. end the affair and B. says she found out another way, I can get him out of the picture.
I realize that's a tall order and I cannot predict how the wife will respond.
I just feel like I have no shot until he's gone. We're not even living together now.
As for what I can do now, other than focusing on myself, is respond to her letter and validate more?
