"In fact, now that I've written that last sentence I realised that it was my need to fix things taking over and all I need is to reassert my patience."
Yes, I think we all have urges to do SOMETHING and I have learned to notice these and let them pass. Progress indeed for a recovering fixer.
Good that you are realising this. I don't think I have ever regretted doing nothing in my sitch.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
So are you saying that rushing to a conclusion could be just as damaging, in the long run, as not DBing at all or only partially applying the strategy?
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
So are you saying that rushing to a conclusion could be just as damaging, in the long run, as not DBing at all or only partially applying the strategy?
YES
Would you like a brain surgeon to partially operate on you? Or rush to finish?
... Yes, I think we all have urges to do SOMETHING and I have learned to notice these and let them pass. Progress indeed for a recovering fixer.
Good that you are realising this. I don't think I have ever regretted doing nothing in my sitch.
Thank you for the encouragement Toots, along with what Cadet has said it's just the pick me up I needed.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
If I am blunt I'd be able to get on with my next relationship unencumbered by a marriage. Isn't that what we all want IF we end up divorced.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
Not necessarily, our marriages are dead, so not not being tied by it does not exclude your former wife as it's a brand new relationship as well.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
No, filing would not get me closer to any of my goals nor would dating someone else.
Maybe I also need to review my goals and get back behind them rather than get distracted by stray thoughts, thank you Azorrk for your insight.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
