BeClem, I think you need to take a step back here. You are trying to get your W to wake up and realise a whole bunch of things in a short period of time. And you are the last person she will listen to at this point. It wont help your sitch and she will think of you as the enemy.

I think she needs to realise this stuff in her own time. You can't MAKE her go get a job. But she may realise she HAS to once you guys truly split finances if this is how things go.

Deep breath, step back, reflect and start processing the good advice that well-meaning posters are giving you.

Last edited by Toots; 08/04/15 08:30 PM.
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