And her going out and spending money on a babysitter is irresponsible at this point.
And she is thinking why is it your job to tell her that?
You are not her father. Stop trying control her actions or "telling" her what to do.
We discussed extensively last week how if she is filing for divorce than things need to change.
Things will change. You cannot just force it or prod it along. Leave it well alone and let W do the heavy lifting when it comes to filing for D. It is all on her.
I had to explain to her that it wasn't about going out. It was about that the life she had is now over.
It is not your job to "teach" her those things. Lady Karma will take care of it if and when you DO get out of your own way. Life has a way of teaching the WASes things on the other side and they do come to some realizations on their own. Let them learn it on their own and experience it for themselves.
If she does not want me as her husband than it is time for things to change now and for her to face the reality of all of this.
Stop it. Life will teach her life lessons. It is NOT your job to show W the "reality" of her situation. Let her go and let her encounter brick walls...let her fall down...let her figure out her own chit without you being in her face or ear.
I need to be able to get on my feet so I can provide a safe and stable environment for our children when they are with me etc.
You are the only person that you can control...not W, not the Easter Bunny, not the gnome in your garden. How do you plan to get on your feet? What actions can you take to achieve that goal?
And her going out and spending money on a babysitter is irresponsible at this point.
I'd say that's one of the most responsible things W has done in a while...getting a real babysitter to watch the kids. Kudos to her!
