And today I get this conversation. I text her about seeing the kids this evening. She tells me she has plans and there will be a babysitter at the house.
So I call her. Not to harp on her going out but to discuss why is she spending $60 on a babysitter and going out to a concert with her cousin? We discussed extensively last week how if she is filing for divorce than things need to change.
She needs to start working. We have to split finances. Figure out the practicalities and the reality of what this really means.
Her initial reaction: "I don't care what you say. I am going".
It's like the reaction of a child. I had to explain to her that it wasn't about going out. It was about that the life she had is now over. If she does not want me as her husband than it is time for things to change now and for her to face the reality of all of this. I cannot afford to support two households. I need to be able to get on my feet so I can provide a safe and stable environment for our children when they are with me etc.
And her going out and spending money on a babysitter is irresponsible at this point.
