I mean, I have not one bad word to say about her as a mother. She is a great mom.
But she will bolt with them if I move back home. And that effects them.
What do you think? What makes you think it's not a good decision?
JMHO, but if she would bolt with two small children without any plan as to how to take care for them.....then I would think she's not very stable, mother or not. The only good reason a woman would take off running with two little kids were if they were in danger at home.
If you don't want to move back for the reason you said, then you need to get to busy and get full custody of your kids. Telling your W why you have decided not to move home, has handed her a tool that she will hold over your head from now on.
Although you may be a very upfront sort of man, you need to realize that there are some things that you cannot afford to share with a WW. She will turn it on you and use for her advantage.
Yes Ma'am. You are spot on Sandi. My wife is NOT stable. I have known this for years. Molested by her brother as a child. Trust issues. Intimacy issues. Controlling. Runs from problems instead of facing them.
And now "hates" me because I went through a few years of depression that I now have under control.
You are right Sandi, I am a very upfront man. I am a good man. Not perfect. Far from it. I just don't know what to do at this point.
There is no good reason for her to bolt. There is no abuse or anything of that nature. At all.
All she ever said while I was going through my issues was that she wanted her husband back. Well, here I am. I am myself again. I am a great father and my kids love me with everything. And she hates me.
So far as her being unstable, I agree and have known that for a long time. I even tried to help her with it about 10 years ago and she even holds that against me now. Telling me that she was over what had happened to her and that I was the one who made it an issue. But that just isn't true. She was the one who had told me many times in our marriage that the reason she struggled with sex and intimacy was because of what happened to her. She doesn't even remember saying those things to me now.
In addition she has shown unstable behaviors in handling this entire situation. I mean, she filed for divorce without even thinking through about finding a job, where will she live, where will I live etc.
Part of me wonders if she even did file. She claims she did so about two weeks ago before her and the kids took a trip to see her folks. I still have not received anything yet. When I asked her what day it was that she filed she said she couldn't remember.
It literally is like dealing with a crazy person who thinks that I am the crazy one.
