I have consulted with my Lawyer about moving back home. I am legally safe concerning abandonment in that in the eyes of the law I have not and am not abandoning them. So that will not be a legal issue for me concerning custody.
There is also nothing I can legally do to stop her from leaving with the kids. Unless she tried to take them out of state. That she cannot do.
Yes. I do want to fight for custody of my children. According to my Wife, what she will be asking for is joint legal custody but that she will be the custodial parent which means the kids will live with her nad I will have visitation.
That I do not want. This is her divorce. Not mine. Not the kids'. I want 50/50 legal and custodial.
She will fight me tooth and nail on that.
So far as a Mom thinking that a strong Dad is attractive: Of course I believe that. But my W doesn't care Cadet. She is so far gone that I do not believe there is anything I can do or be that will reattract her.
I'm sure you recall from my sitch the period of depression I went through for a number of years where I was very withdrawn. I wasn't myself. I wasn't the husband I had been or the father.
All of that is different now. I have heard over and over again on these boards about putting in the work on myself. Here is the thing. I have put in the work. I have worked my butt off these last 9 months.
I am no longer depressed. I am back to myself. I am a great father.
But my W. She is done. She said the other day that none of that matters. She hates me for what I went through (depression) and the fact that I am back to myself and am a great father (which she acknowledges) doesn't make any difference to her.
So I think that I am well beyond re-attracting her. It would take a miracle.
Long ago, you had said that you thought my Wife was depressed. I know she is depressed. I think her issues go well beyond depression. But I can't change that..
Those are her issues.
I mean, her thought processes are't even logical. I even asked her that if I had to come home for a period of time until we get more financially settled, she starts working, I save enough money for my own place etc that she would still just uproot the children? She said yes. I asked her if she thought that was the right thing to do for them? She said no. So I asked her why she would do that then. Her answer "because I cannot live with you. I hate you".
