I didn't realize how much I wrote! Thanks to anyone who has the patience to keep up with it. On a side note, the more I think about his EA, the more pathetic it is. They bonded over their "victim" status. They bonded over discussing how terrible their spouses are, and how disconnected they both are from their parents due to bad childhoods. They encouraged each other to reconnect with their parents, claimed it was "much more than an EA but a therapeutic partnership" (really, those are their words, not mine, therapeutic relationship over bottles of wine in fancy restaurants while lying to their spouses, yeah right). Well, I don't know how that is working out for her, but I sort of wish in a twisted way that I let her have him so she could be dealing with my IL's now. I am sure that would have lasted all of 5 minutes. And I'd love to see how she would relate to my OCD daughter. I really wish I let him have her, one day in reality would have busted that bubble.
I really am doing better emotionally but I am so sad over all of this. All of it, the EA is the least of it to tell the truth, just pushes my buttons but I know the issues with depression and my IL's are the bigger issues. Continuing to work on myself. I get it.
