How does someone know where they are on this journey

Detaching and getting a life and starting to feel a lot better about myself happier arround the kids

Still up and down with emotions and think I will be for the foreseeable

Is it just a waiting game to see if W will start making conversation or get close
How does one know what to be looking for to know things are moving in the right direction

Me:48 W 41
M:18 T:26
2 D 18 & 4
2 S 17 & 13
Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation
D filed 06/17
Separate houses 10/17
D Final 29/12//17.