Very sorry you're going through this! Unfortunately your H is on a long journey of self discovery and there is nothing you can do to help him get through it quicker, he's got to do it at his own pace. That may very well involve moving in with OW. Eventually he'll discover that HE is the problem rather than you, but it could take months of living with OW before he comes to that realization and starts addressing his demons. In the meantime YOU have to work on YOU. Read DB over and over again. Get out. Get a life. Move on without him. You may very well get no reply to that probing text, stuff like that is pressure and the WAS hates pressure of any kind. Read Sandi's rules at least once a day and live those rules! Good luck!
