Hello

[714Dad]

i don't believe my W is WW. Hence my desire for more WAW info.

I am following the rules, but one of them is to go dark?

I haven't treated her like she's cheated, but i have been jealous.

i am being and staying calm and kind, validating, respectfully disagreeing on the rewritten parts of the R she brings up, and dressing nice and overall being better.

so i am working on myself, but i am not pursuing, so i can't work on the R outside of working on myself. And as the R is dissolving there's little i can do that would not be pursuit or clinging.

i'm being supportive of her decision, sounding positive even though i'm clenched up inside, not putting up roadblocks.

a lot of her comments sound MLC (i need to focus on my career, my life is a third over, ILYBNILWY, we met too young, our relationship was never healthy, etc) so i don't know what to think or do.

she took off her wedding band one day after moving back into her parent's house. ???

i feel like there are so many facets to it that it doesn't fit WW, WAS or MLC. She's incredibly beautiful and she always countered me telling her with "no one at work sees me like that." but maybe now she realizes they do. she let slip that one of the parking attendants said "wow you're so beautiful" to her, but she was using it as an example of how people said it to be fake. ugh. she's always had self esteem issues and no matter how i said stuff in these later years it never made up for the fact that i didn't say it enough in the early years.