I fee the same way as you do and I am sure many other people also feel like this but the bottom line is it does not help....my W asked for my time she desperately wanted me to spend quality time with her making her feel loved since the split she does not want me arround her and me pushing this just shows that I do not listen still.
It is so so hard to distance yourself from someone you love ....God I am in almost in an exact same position as you are and it [censored] big time.
Keep bettering yourself to be the best person you can be
You will get through this
Take care
Me:48 W 41 M:18 T:26 2 D 18 & 4 2 S 17 & 13 Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation D filed 06/17 Separate houses 10/17 D Final 29/12//17.