My lizard and her tunnel ...

[late30s]

Original thread (Because my lame jokes can't remain unread, you all have no idea what you're missing! :D) http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2593838&page=1

I think I belong in this section and the newcomers section scrolls too fast for my post to remain at the top for very long with the time frame I post.

Update:

She confessed that OM isn't making her happy like she thought "it" would. She finds herself more unhappy than when she left. She continues with she'll be returning soon. I'm left spinning. Calls and texts me fairly often now. I am unsure how to proceed. I feel like this is progress? We've been able to have conversations now without her turning into the screaming spew monster from Hades. Even manage to disagree in healthy ways.

This time last week I was feeling like I will give this a little while longer before adopting the last resort technique. I have seen improvement with what I am currently doing. Shutting up and listening, giving her space, and doing a lot of my own things. Honestly, our day to day interactions have improved greatly. I've been able to reflect on some of the things she said, I'm jealous, controlling, and critical. I can see why she has felt that way and I continue to work on those.

Unfortunately, due to financial issues, I have had to drop down to therapy once a month. Would love to have a chat with him, but I don't see him till next week. Wife is speaking of our future more and more. Remains living with OM, hence the spinning. She has told me that if I want to walk away from all of this, she won't blame me, that is probably going to be hard on me. (Because the previous five months has been a walk in the park? :p)

I'm open to any and all input.

Thanks for the support folks.

****Joke****

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