It's interesting reading your updates above, in an odd way it sounds to me like you no longer really have any interest in reconciling at this point. You definitely seem to have detached, maybe actually have gone well past the point of the typical definition of detaching as discussed here.
Is it just the depression and recent drinking thing that has made you so over H, or is there more to this? I just re-skimmed your sitch but I dont see (or I missed it), but has H been to IC or even started to work on him at this point? I know you've mentioned it above, and I agree, that nothing else matters now other than for H to start to reflect and work on his own issues.
Regardless, you sound like you're in a great place emotionally right now, so congrats on that accomplishment!
Me:36 W:30 M:2.75 T:7 BD: 4/2015 ILYBNILWY: 5/2015 W Moved Out: 5/2015 W filed for D: 7/2015
