Newcomer's sad story

[Shuley]

Even if you go through the mediation process, you still need a L. You need one to consult and review paperwork before you sign anything at the very least. Fill out your own D paperwork and keep it to yourself, so you are prepared to know what to ask for. Don't pull the trigger on anything, but prepare yourself behind the scenes. Educate yourself about the process so you are not blindsided. You know she is.

Be smart, prepared, agreeable, strong and try to be at peace with wherever this process takes you. She will be caught off guard and will notice you taking the high road. Any other position is unattractive.