My story - W was with OW

[Shuley]

Things going better. W stated she wanted to work on marriage because it's too special not to fight for. We've been having talks about what we believe the problems are when she wants to talk. One MC session and another next week set up. One thing I did tell her during one of these discussions is that she has focused a lot over the years on the few reasons not to love me and very little on the many reasons to love me. that hit home for her, she agreed. She's spent two nights in the last few days back in bed with me - her choice. No funny stuff, just sleeping and a little spooning. When sleeping arrangements have been discussed I tell her she is welcome to sleep wherever she likes. However, I do think it confuses our son - but that's okay. We have him set up with his own counselor to share his feelings. I was happy to wake up this morning with her spooning me. I am VERY cautiously optimistic and realistic knowing we still have quite the uphill battle.

I've been leaving her alone and being upbeat, cheerful and pulled back. I started GAL in many ways years ago. I'm still hitting the gym almost daily, playing soccer, watching movies, eating right, keeping in contact with friends, etc. (I'd be lying if I said I was sleeping well) It seems to be working, I can tell b/c she seems more depressed than me! I'm not "acting" either, I really believe I will be okay. If we don't make it, it will be very painful - the hardest time in my life. But, I'll make it - thank God for my boy. My W, son and therapist (and Wonka!) all thought it was not a good idea for me to go to the annual family camping trip in Yosemite, so I'm going. I plan to hike half dome one day and spend quality alone and together time - hoping to heal.

I am going to have a positive attitude that things will work out, however the more I work on accepting whatever comes, the more prepared I am for the worst.

On a funny note I got DB book today and am surgically attaching Malcolm Gladwell's "The Tipping Point" cover on it as a decoy so I can read it on the trip.