She says she wants a strong person who is straight with her, but I don't think she means it. That whole strength thing that I was told would help me regain her respect, doesn't seem to work on her.
Not done infrequently, no -- you're caught in the worst possible world that way. I still say it MIGHT work -- and is your BEST chance at re-attracting her -- if you do it CONSISTENTLY, and mean it.
Right now, you are passive, passive, passive, AGGRESSIVE. Passive, passive, passive, AGGRESSIVE.
Worst of both worlds. At least total passivity would give you some peace, albeit artificial peace.
Starsky
That's a good point. I think I did blindside her today. What I should have done is call her on her BS when she said it, and do that consistently. It's almost like I'm slow on the uptake sometimes. I'll hear her say something, and it doesn't hit me about how disrespectful it is until later. By then it's too late and it starts that passive-aggressive pattern you mention.
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