When he's open to "being normal/being in the marriage", I'm not really sure how to proceed. He seems sincere, but still won't talk about the affair (because it's been 'on my terms'). Should I talk about how it hurts, how there are triggers... or still STFU. I guess I don't know when it should be discussed. UGH.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
