Well I took the girls to the park for half an hour all they did is fight because they stayed up late last night so home and now they are napping. only text conversation went like this:
M: your mom will watch D7 tomorrow H ok H: Garbage done before noon yes I think so M: What???? Not sure that was for me (i did not ask how day was and yes I think so means nothing to me as I did not ask anything so I think he sent it to wrong person) H: Garbage done Going to be a good day! (He works for the county park so they pick garbage up twice a week getting done before noon means no garbage all day long) M: Good I like when you easy going days Three hours later M: Got the letter for free lunch today H: Awesome!
Will be balancing our accounts here in a bit and our room is clean I think I will do bedding tomorrow when I can hang it out. And will do dishes after dinner. So far I think I am on track. Idk conversation could have been shortened a little. I try to be supportive because that is one of his complaints so saying Im glad it is an easy day for him is a 180 because I had been complaining about him not working not making enough.
Also last night we had a conversation I am not even sure what it was about but I heard him say he is tired of the double standard. I can see this all the time. I do hold a double standard a lot. It is ok for me to do things that I get after him about or I will say he can go do something and then complain about it so I need to find a 180 solution for that. I have been trying really hard to listen for his complaints! I agree with this complaint so I will work on it!
He also came home last night and told me we were going racing Tuesday (D4, D8, him and I) He is sitting in grand stands with us. I am glad he invited me. I was also telling him about my plans to take D8 to do something with her dad Friday for her birthday and he invited himself along. I was kind of shocked because he usually wants nothing to do with us on Fridays because he goes out with OW. I also thought it was weird as usually when I say I am going to do something with D8's dad he does not go along. I am glad he is coming but I did not tell him that I just said ok. I did not want to act to excited. I am sure he will go out with OW that night after we get back but I will simply say Ok have a great time. As D8 and D7 will be staying with D8's dad that night so only me and him home. I expect he will not come home that night but we will see since his mom will be dropping D4 off to him at 830 in the morning for him to take back to her mom. Saturday we are keeping D8 and D7 at our house so I assume he will come home even though it is the weekend we usually do not have kids.
I am very confused by his actions to start spending more time with her and trying to bring her around the house more often. I am also confused by him spending the night at a friends with her. this is an all of a sudden behavior? Any insight? Is it maybe getting more serious? I do not know how to read him as we are still doing all of the same things.
