PT...I don't have much to offer except my sympathies. You and I are feeling the exact same way. I don't understand how our spouses can just decide to act on feelings and make the "easy" decision instead of really digging in and making our marriages better. I am so sorry that you have to go through this too. Our timeline is pretty in sync with each other too.
Me:33 H:36 T:13 years M:10 years S4 Separated 05/15 H Filed 06/15