This makes me so very happy to read. Caliguy you are the man!!!
Thank you Heavy
Originally Posted By: job
Cali, I'm very happy that things are progressing nicely. It's a new marriage and try to remember to not go back to your old ways. Keep expectations low and allow her to finish up her journey and catch up w/you.
Thank you job, your wisdom here has been epic. Funny you mention the New M ... as W and I have adopted that, and I have frequently asked her what a New Happy M looks like to her, just to allow discussions and conversation to avoid those pesky false expectations we had early when we were young. And like you said ... she is still working through things in her way, on her own time frame and I can easily give her that space as she does so .... there are some bumps with her, terrified I will leave, having learned to be patient here has helped ... and there are times I have to be firm. Regardless its more about being the rock even now, stability has been paramount as of late.
Originally Posted By: Toots
Cali, I really enjoy reading your thread. Particularly as you have been 'through it' for such a long time, faced D, come back from that to where you are now. Plus, your posts show such wisdom. I'm grateful to benefit from them.
Sounds like you are full steam ahead now for moving back in together, and I wish you the very best with this.
Toots xx
TY Toots ... yeah its been a long ... long process. But honestly one I needed, in order to learn what I have, become a better person than I ever was and now having a chance at a M where I have a voice, can find peace and happiness in. I do realize how fortunate I am in all this .... not so much for the M and the W waking ... but for going through such a difficult time in my life and emerging stronger than what I was going in, if there is a lesson in all this its that.
