LBS trying to get it right

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Ghost,
My relationship with my WW was similar to your prior to her moving out. She was having an EA so that is different. While we were in the same house we would still take care of the children. I would do laundry, she would cook, etc... She told me she wanted a divorce and was going to stay in the house until her apartment became available. She promised me that she had not been in contact with the OM and would not do that until she moved out.

Once I discovered the EA for the second time, after she told me she had stopped, she immediately moved out. Things have been downhill since. She have been very vindictive. She has tried everything in her power to hurt me. She has tried to take my children and is now trying to stick me will all the debt. She has not contributed one dime to our debt since leaving. So to answer your question, moving out did make things worse in a sense. However, it feels like it just moved things to where they were going anyway. It was just a matter of time.

It is strange, a week prior to moving out she suggested we get divorced and buy houses right next to each other and be best friends. Now we have a mutual restraining order where we can not even talk to each other. This was her request.

Your situation is different. I am sure it feels like if one of you moves out it will make things worse. I have read other material saying that the last thing you want to do is separate from the home. I am not sure what the DB approach would be here.

It does seem like you are to available to her needs right now. She needs to feel what it is like to be without you. You need to be the confident man she married, someone she will fall back in love with. Maybe someone else can shed some light on this.