Only y'all can understand the depths of emotional pain and y'all are so wise. I appreciate the advice. I truly do since y'all have more of the perspective that can relate.
Thank you pbetra for the link, I'll check it out. Yes, I do know of Mark Hyman so I'm interested on what he has to say. Shotgun - I do have to repeat the serenity prayer just to keep things in perspective. Though hard ... it is doable. Job - your insight is always spot on. Thank you. You're right about H being irrational. So far, everything I say and do he seems to think is wrong. I pray for peace. kml & 123Gwen - I have already sent the texts to my atty. along with more stuff. I'm sure she's so upset that I continue to send all these ridiculous texts but I figure that the more she knows, the more she can help me.
So, this weekend my H didn't see our boys. They were so sad and angry.
H: I had a long convo w/the boys counselor. She's set up a mtg on the 18th. I'll meet the boys there. U can drop them off & pick them up. BTW - DS16 text me about picking him & DS18 at church after there overnight church activity.?? Didn't u tell them about r text convo? This is what you've done..you will need to explain it to the boys. I have explained the situation with their counselor & mtg on the 18th is the best thing at this point.
Me: I'm glad u spoke with their counselor and thank you for setting up the mtg w/her & the boys. So u want to wait til the 18th to see the boys?
H: VGE1...really? i am now questioning ur ability to homeschool our boys cuz u lack the ability to understand what I have told u in numerous texts. Simply read the previous msgs & u will see that I have answered your question.
Me: I was just confirming what you've said that's all. Then I'll let the boys know that you'll see them at counseling.
H: Yes, I think it's best..being honest w/the boys about how things really are is the best thing. All these yrs you have chosen to keep things private that they don't understand that our marriage wasn't what we have lead them to believe. Our families have blended well and the kids all get along great. I don't want to go through the rest of the yr arguing about things. I just want to see my boys when i have them on my days & be civil when we r all together at any upcoming events such as soccer games, swimming, etc. I think counseling is going to help answer any questions for the boys & possibly help them heal from anything they might not understand. And at any pint if they wish to come stay with me or want to call me they are always welcome to come & stay. Did u even bother asking the boys why they walked out on me during my visit???
Ok - so I didn't respond. I don't even know how to respond. It seems that it just goes back and forth. H seems rational & logical that I seem to be defensive. H is now insulting my intelligence.
I just told our boys - Dad is not going to come visit y'all til the counseling session.
Ds9, DS11 were angry and sad. In fact, Ds11 said he felt relieved that he doesn;t have to deal with OW & her kids. He just wants to spend time with dad alone. H doesn't seem to understand that they just want him & not always have OW & her kids around. I've always told my children the truth but I have to be careful that I don't badmouth him - which I never have. Does H really want me to be honest with them about H behavior and his religious tone in his new world?
Some friends who are FB friends with my H mentioned that they are all still FB friends but that they dont respond to his posts or like anything he does post. But yet, no one calls him out on his behavior or posts.
OF course, I don't ask what's out there but everyone feels the need to share with me a few things like - "he was at a wedding and mentioned that he'll keep everyone posted when he & OW will have a wedding date." or guess what he posted - "love your enemies... Luke 6:27. thanks to my friends & family who have been there for me."
See - what do I need all that for. I feel I'm being betrayed over and over by his family & our friends. I tell them I don't need to know. And why has No one said anything about what he's doing is wrong. And when my sons call him out on their discomfort or what he's doing acting like a christian - then he gets sooo mad.
H keeps playing the victim in this. I can already hear his mom & dad & even his friends telling him how mean I am and how they'll support him.
Anyway, I need some encouragement. I am so sad especially for his soul. I pray for him, my inlaws, the OW cuz I pray God reveals truth.
Praying for my children to be strong, courageous, faithful and merciful. Praying for wisdom & courage & strength for me.
