It does start to wear on me, both mentally and emotionally, when every past and present action and decision of mine gets to be critized, yet I am expected to turn a blind eye and zip up to all of my H's faults and poor decisions. You start to feel a bit beat down. I am now the family pet getting no love and attention and it stinks. Every now and then something is going to slip out in frustration. The reference to the text was not mentioned to H. Sure, I understand that why my H was upset, but I don't entirely agree with it or think it is fair. Finding the right way to respond in those cases is hard. I am really working on compassion and empathy, but it gets hard when you get zilch in return from WS. It is hurtful, but yes, I understand he has felt that way for years. I am glad that you seem to have so much hope for my M, because I am feeling a bit hopeless these days. This DBing is hard stuff!!
I hear you! I talked to our DB counselor about it last time (we have some individual sessions) and she said 'it won't last forever!'
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
