Your post is very much appreciated, PP. And thank you for the prayers!
Do you have a suggestion in how to communicate with newcomer LBH'S that what they see as putting out fires doesn't work?
I believe everything you said about the male gut instinct. It has been his reaction to crises over the years. Only this time, he has a stitch like he's not experienced, and it calls for a new kind of "action", which may appear as not doing anything........until he tries it.
I hear over and over how hard it is to follow the rules. Yet, aren't the rules describing the very person he was before he got started getting serious about the girl he was dating? At least, that's the way men used to be. If they hit as hard and fast as a LBH'S tries to come on to his W.........any gal would run for the hills, b/c it turns her cold. That is what I want guys to understand. To stop acting like a jilted H who is running after a woman who has dumped him. It is not attractive, and just b/c he is M to her, does not make it attractive.
He has to return to a similar mindset of his early years before M. He rediscovers his masculinity, his confidence, his inner strength, decisiveness, self-respect, bravery, leadership, etc. In most of the stories I remember, somewhere after M the LBH'S would lose some of those traits. Something caused her to lose respect for him, and then one thing leads to another.
Again, thanks for your support.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
