Does the benefit/reward exceed the cost? What is the benefit from trying to stay in a close relationship with my MLC? There is also a cost to being so close to someone who is going thru major emotional growth and turmoil.
I really like to have a drink of an evening; however with training for the half marathon my alcohol consumption must change. I have wanted to cut back for years, but never found any reason important enough. However, the thought of running after drinking the night before doesn't seem to work any longer. Today, it felt great to wake up alert and run 8 miles.
I have been friends with a guy 14yrs younger than me for many, many years. Recently, this guy has been making very provacative suggestions. Again, the long term cost to my self-esteem far outweighs any short term physical fulfillment. (However, it is flattering and gives me hope that I will find someone in my age bracket when the time is right).
I question what my Cost-Benefit is with the CURRENT relationship I have with my H. Are there any benefits? He is no longer good fun/company, he no longer seems dynamic, he shows no creativity, he has no personal direction and he shows no interest in me/my life. He is no longer even physically here. Beyond our history and the children, are there any current benefits?
H: 48 Me: 47 Married: 19 yrs T: 20 yrs 2 teen-Ds and S H-MLC (started 2012) and H-Unemployed (11/2014) D-Bomb: 2/2015 H left country but hasn't moved out: 7/2015 I filed: 7/2015
