[BrightFuture]

So… The conversation, or I would say a heated argument with my male mutual friend on the last day of my vacation…

The conversation started with my mutual friend telling me about H’s is planning to go to the vacation home on the first week of September. This got me by surprise… I asked him if it means he will be there for the Labor Day weekend. Because I didn’t expect H to go to the vacation home until November or December. The guy has to work to make the living!

I was kind of upset about the news, because I already planned the trip to the vacation home with my other GF who is supposed to fly from another state. She was asking me about the dates and was ready to buy the tickets.

So, one word after another (mind you we had a few drinks by then), the conversation became very heated. This crazy woman at the vacation home was mentioned too. My male friend said that if I want to come over for the Labor Day weekend he will find a good rental place for me. I said that it is not what I want. In combination with that crazy woman getting in my face when I’m there, plus me not able to enjoy my place over there when I make plans (I don’t make plans in the winter BTW, when I know that H is there), I said this is not going to work for me anymore. My male friend told me that he had a conversation with H about the condo and the crazy woman trying to decorate it and do things for H in there. My male friend told H to stop that, because it will end in an ugly way. He said that H mentioned that maybe in this case he will need to file for D. So, why he hasn’t filed yet?

The subject of D was mentioned a few times and I was accused of trying to leave H with nothing. My male friend obviously trying to protect H. And it didn’t sit with me too well. I said things that I should not have said… Oh well… This is all going to be passed onto H… At the same time, my male friend kept telling me that what H did is not fare to me, that he hurt me big time and he (my male friend) understands what I’ve been going through, and he still doesn’t understand why H did what he did. Then he said that I’ve change so much in the last three years, for the better, and that H changed to… But my friend is not sure that it is an improvement for H, LOL.

I told him that at this point I don’t care if H is left with nothing (which could happen even without me doing anything, he just needs to file for D himself), I only want what I want. In this case, to use my vacation home, which is BTW is not H’s place, we still have a mortgage on both our names. H decided that he didn’t want the house, he wanted the vacation home. All this was H’s choice. I didn’t have any say in what he decided to do with his (and my) life. So, I don’t want to be responsible for the consequences of H’s choices.

I wish I would not get involved in that conversation at all. But… what is done, is done…

My male friend told me that he would call H and ask him about his exact plant for Labor Day weekend. He also said that he would try to find me a place to stay. Well, I decided that this doesn’t need to be done through the 3-rd party. So, when I e-mailed H the updated company file a couple of days ago, I told him about my plans and asked him to let me know if there would be any issue with us (me, my GF and my dog) staying in the condo. I’ve got dead silence from him…

Sorry for the ramble. I’m going to the vacation home next weekend with my sister and her kid. I guess I will find out more about H’s plans then.