Another question. I dont' want to read anything into this that is why I am asking professionals.
When H first left, he did not see the kids regularly except dd15 because OW had her claws in her so she thought everything was better there until...Anyways. H went 6 weeks or more without seeing them, asking about them, talking to them, anything. (I have a calender that I keep track of all of this). He would acknowledge them only if they made first contact. When he did come over, OW was non stop blowing up his phone, pissing him off to the point I would say something innocent and he would leave. He wouldn't stay 20 minutes if that. If the kids called OW was in the background as loud as she could to get his attention.
Fast forward to now. He comes over once a week to see the kids. He is here a minimum of 1.5 hours. OW has put the rule down that when he is here he is not to talk to her and she does not talk to him. She does not approve this "family time or playing house" as she calls it. He is more willing to help and do things for the kids. He has started to ask me how the kids are doing and whats happening with them (Never did that before).
Another odd change. Before he left he used to get furious if he was TM"ing on his phone or on the computer and I was anywhere near him. After he left, whenever he was around and he picked up his phone and I was near, I moved away from him, went to another room, whatever. Now if I do that he tells me to relax and not worry about it. He said that it bothers him that I do that.
Like I said I don't want to read anything into this. These are all "complaints" I have expressed to him on several occassions and always got blown off. Kind of like now his actions are meeting his words?
Last edited by little1; 08/02/1502:18 AM.
Me 44 H 46 3 DD 22, 18, 15 1 DS 2.5 M 10/1992 BD1 2/2014 BD 2 7/19/2014 Moved in with OW 7/20/2014
