Thank you Lou for taking to time to try to reframe all of this for me. I guess my personal motto is just trying to keep my options open to whatever is in store for the future. I want my girls to see me moving ahead and not thinking H will return but if I have learned anything in the last year it is that I really don't know anything either.

As for the job - my employer does not treat employees well. I have witnessed that on many occasions with others. It is not an easy place and they are known for moving people around like furniture. I have decided if that is my fate I am okay with leaving or being let go. Right now the health of my dominant arm is more important. . I will not jeopardize my recovery or my mental health. I am grateful for this job but it does not pay that well and I won't allow myself to be put into a no win situation that drains all my energy and self esteem. So what will be will be. I hope to start PT in a couple of weeks and then go back to work. I have no idea if it will come to fruition.


M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters
BD: 5/14
Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW
D Final 9/17

“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
― Maya Angelou