Hi haunted. Something that helped me in the beginning was counseling. He helped me to put the focus on myself. I wasn't eating or sleeping, got down to 93 pounds and was having anxiety attacks. He prescribed some mild antidepressants that helped me calm down and sleep, and I stopped them on my own after about a year.
Talking with a professional really helped, but if you decide to do it, make sure the person has some knowledge of MLC. Some IC's have been known to cause more damage. Mine didn't know much about MLC and made some pretty strong statements about H, having never met him.....but he did help to get my focus off H and onto what was best for myself and my son.
Hang in there, your feelings are normal. Ask us all the questions you want and like Job said, it helps to read others stories. This experience can be like the twilight zone. It helps to see others are going through similar situations and to read they have the same emotions as you.
Me 48 H 46 S 11 M 2004 BD 8/13 H moved out 2/15 -live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-