Gwen - there is always something to work with ....you

Just because h is with someone else right now does not mean that won't change. You have no idea what is going on in his world, for all you know it could be all doom and gloom ....and I have just learnt that it was in my h world. We tend to let our imaginations create a wonderful rosy picture that they must be living, but reality is that they are trying to be someone that they are not and the energy in keeping that up will eventually burn out.

This is not about h and what he is doing, its about you and what you want to do - whether that be "standing" or shutting the door, or just accepting that this is the way it is and be open to all options - by being open I mean, your h returning will happen if it is meant to be or could be a new man entering your life is ok with you or being on your own is just fine, working on your own plans, wants and needs.

You are very understandably having a really tough time; frustration from your injury, insecurity from not knowing what is happening with your job (has anything more been said on that front?), your h fallen off the planet. I know its words, but keep moving through the days my friend, you really don't know what is around the corner, something wonderful will surprise you one day.

Big hugs to you