Summer of Growth and Acceptance - Part 2

[Zues126]

The funny thing BT...you ARE making changes for your next R. At this point I don't care about your WAH, he has done enough. The fact is once he BDs he's hypocritical as heck to think you should stay loyal. I want you to do anything and everything to put yourself in a good spot with a bright future. When I was talking about validating him, it wasn't even because I thought he necessarily deserved it, only that you're building muscles that are making you a stronger and better person. If you can act civilly now, think of what you can do during the course of a normal relationship!

I am glad you had a good time this week and were detached. Keep that going. The only reason you are upset about his treatment is that you are expecting him to behave like a mature adult. He's proven he won't, so keep grieving the loss of your M and getting stronger, and stay as emotionally detached as possible. Pick yourself up out of the muck you're in. Maybe he'll follow, maybe he won't.

You know this, I'm more just rooting you on and making sure you know that I am focusing on you because I want you to come out of this better off, whether that's a better M with him or not. Take care BT.