I have been married for 12 years, together for 15 years.
Two kids, aged 9 and 6.
My family lived in a small island, where I felt like living in Paradise. My wife has born there, but she could only imagine the day we would leave for the mainland.
As I would typically do, I dragged the issue, avoided it and postponed discussing the problem. Until it eventually became a tangible barrier between my wife and me. We starting growing apart, each one taking care of its own business. I didn’t have the physical contact I wanted and needed, she didn’t have the meaningful conversations the absolutely needed.
One day, four years ago, I got a job in an international organization, requested unpaid leave and came to work in a foreign country.
Five months later, my wife and kids joined me. My wife also requested unpaid leave.
Sometime later, my wife told me she had done that as a way to try and save the marriage, as she felt it condemned if we would have stayed living far from each other. She has ever since been miserable for not working and having become a house wife.
Life lingered for two more years, not having improved a bit: each one of us, especially me, would be doing the same stuff. For not having the sex I needed I stopped initiating any contact until we stopped having sex at all.
Then, in June 2014 my wife dropped the bomb.
She would be one more year in this foreign land for the kids’ sake and their school year, but in June 2015 she would go home. She wanted the divorce.
I begged and cried.
In December 2014 she had a psychotic event. She had been depressed for a long time and, when this event happened, she was not herself for an entire week of allucinations.
We went to our homeland for Christmas and she was treated by a Psychiatrist. She started taking pills daily.
After Christmas I came back with my kids. My wife stayed with her parents for one more month.
When she joined us, she announced her firm intention of divorcing me after June 2015, that is, after the end of the school year.
From January till June 2015 I applied DB rules and technics to the best of my knowledge.
Me43 W39 M 12y,T 15y S09,S07 Bomb Jun14 Sleeping separately Jan/Mar15 Share bed Mar/May15 Reconcile Jun15 Aug15 W sais D will happen D told to kids Sept15 W moved out with kids 01 October15
