Hi. Sorry this is happening to you. Re your question , do you honestly think she would tell you the truth ? Why does it matter ? I ask that because of course it MATTERS but how will it change your Ws view of wanting a divorce ?

If she is then she is and wants a divorce

If she isn't then she still wants a divorce

Please understand I know why you need to know but it doesn't change what's happening

This is the hard part , your W doesnt want your M. Maybe for ever and maybe not
Focus on you and what you can do to impo rove you and your life

Take care. Rd