Hi. Sorry this is happening to you. Re your question , do you honestly think she would tell you the truth ? Why does it matter ? I ask that because of course it MATTERS but how will it change your Ws view of wanting a divorce ?
If she is then she is and wants a divorce
If she isn't then she still wants a divorce
Please understand I know why you need to know but it doesn't change what's happening
This is the hard part , your W doesnt want your M. Maybe for ever and maybe not Focus on you and what you can do to impo rove you and your life