4 weeks into separation, and 2.5 weeks into detachment/last resort. I've not made contact, only when contacted and then very brief/vague answers. She has asked my schedule, what I had planned on weekend, asked me out to dinner, and also asked for a list of bills so she could pay half. Even given me her weekend schedule last weekend, which was odd since she'd stopped that a few weeks earlier. Each day, the email seems like a reach.
I've completed 4 counseling sessions which were beneficial. I'm still re-reading DB and DR, along with two the counselor suggested -- Rebuilding and 5 Languages of Love. Learning a lot about myself, my marriage, and what parts I failed at. And what I did well.
She is still not sleeping. Her counselor has diagnosed her with severe anxiety attacks which is not helping her sleep. After a few weeks of reflection, I feel her OCD fueled a MLC along with the EA likely caused her to be a WW.
The OCD has always been a problem, not necessarily in the marriage (not until now), but in everyday life. Her's is the "put something down/away perfectly" kind of OCD and involves pervasive thoughts of family members dying or being hurt.
We are meeting for dinner tomorrow evening, not in a quiet place either. In our previous two meetings, she did not wear her ring, I did. I don't plan on wearing it tomorrow. Will try like hell to be chipper and upbeat!
Me - Mid 40's W - Mid 40's Married 20 No kids BD - 7/2015 ILYB... Moved out 2 days later Suspect EA
