My therapist advised me to attend al-anon meetings. Which is probably a good idea. I think H is in the beginning of a drinking problem, not an alcoholic, but definitely has a problem. Meetings are wednesday nights. I just asked him if he was going to be around Weds night to take care of the kids while I go out. He said yes and asked where I was going. Do I tell him? I said a meeting my counselor recommended.
Part of me doesn't want to go because it has to do with him and his problem, now that I am GAL I'd rather spend that hour or so going out with friends and doing something fun for me. But, on the other hand, I am an avoider so maybe this would be good. I guess I could go to a meeting or two and see if it is helpful? Anybody been to one before? H was never really a drinker until late fall, since then he drinks nightly and has had several extremely intoxicated evenings during which he said the absolutely worst things to me you could imagine, and then claims to have forgotten the next day. The binge drinking has slowed down a lot, but there was a VERY bad night last week- the one that completely shut down my feelings for him.
Any advice? Should I tell him where I am going? Should I go at all?
